Being Full Of Should


Should is not a four letter word.  It does have it’s place in grammar.  But it is a word that too many of us are in love with using in an unproductive, non-encouraging way.

We take it up like a verbal club battering ourselves and everyone else bloody with it.

it sounds like a reasonable word of valid expectation.  But is it?  Is it really a powerful, encouraging motivator?

Or, is “should” too often a word that produces debilitating guilt or the paralysis of “second guessing” yourself.  Not to mention not being able to appreciate what you and others have done well.

A friend of mine recently told me how she heard a minister say, “We will never love God like we should.”  It didn’t feel right to her but it also didn’t encourage her.  Besides the fact that it assumed something not in evidence in God’s Word.  Jesus said, I always do that which pleases the Father.  That’s an invitation to do the same thing through/with Him.

The scriptures tell us that we are to encourage each other day by day lest we become hardened by the deceitfulness of sin.  (Hebrews 3:13).

To be full of should is a smelly proposition.  It doesn’t produce the aroma of life.  Instead it’s the putrefied aroma of self effort and guilt.  It smells like death because it is.

Instead of telling ourselves and others what we (or they) “should” do, let’s encourage each other what we can do because of the Father’s love, our new life in Jesus, and the power of the Holy Spirit.

Let’s proclaim the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living.

Let’s believe that Jesus actually did something in our place beyond dying like a human martyr.

Should is a word to use very sparingly and never as a word of judgement or criticism.  There are far better ways to motivate.

Are you full of should?

There’s a better way to live and I know that you can!


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