Beating Frustration (3)

Frustrated?  Kiss a dog!  Okay, maybe not literally.  As I was looking for a picture to illustrate this third post on the subject of beating frustration, I saw this and it tickled me….then, I went and vomited in my wastebasket.  <but I digress>  I actually have a helpful point to make….so please read on…

Here’s the deal dude.  You have to “lighten up” a little….maybe a whole lot.  One of the big causes of your frustration is taking everything too seriously.

“But what’s going on in my life IS serious,” you say.  Okay, let me fine-tune what I said a smidge.  Ready?

One of the big causes of your frustration is taking YOURSELF too seriously.

Here are some facts:

  • Your way isn’t always the right way.
  • Your opinion isn’t always the right opinion…or even the truth.
  • Success in this thing (you fill in the blank) doesn’t really depend on you having all the answers
  • Success in this thing (you fill in the blank) doesn’t depend on you doing all the work
  • Everyone else but you are not incompetent or uncommitted
  • God isn’t expecting everything from you that you are expecting of yourself

That’s just a starter list.  What do you think could be added to that list?  Please comment.

The point:  It’s been too much about you for too long.  You’ve become friends with the spirit of stupid and it’s giving you an ulcer and keeping you locked in a prison of frustration.

Simple Solution (although it will take a lot of practice and refocus on Whom (that would be God) that you are actually trusting for your life:

  • Intentionally off load the weight of your trust from your own shoulders to His.
  • Intentionally honor those around you…all of them…(at least in your heart, but also verbally) with anything and everything that can be honored and appreciated.

Actively and intentionally trusting God is a HUGE thing.  In fact the degree of frustration you feel is a good meter on where your honest trust is placed.  And, purposely looking for good and honoring it in those around you is far and away
more important than you can imagine.  You may be surprised how much power it has to quench your frustration and release their potential.

The time to start is now….unless, of course, your way has been working out for you.

Btw…this includes your approach to spiritual growth because too many Christians take themselves too seriously regarding their spirituality.  And, that’s not spiritual…it’s religiosity.  But, that’s for another article.

TODAY:

FIND PLAY IN YOUR DAY

Gary

Beating Frustration (2)

Frustration proves that you’re alive. The only way to
beat it permanently is…well…taking “ye ol’ dirt nap.”

I got so frustrated once that I saw an open package of hot dog
buns…grabbed them…scrunched them…twisted them…pulled
them into pieces, and then…

…threw the scrunched, twisted, pulled-into-pieces chunkettes
into the garbage.

It was silly and stupid.  And, that’s what I felt like after my
baby tantrum was over….although, doesn’t the Bible say that

the Kingdom of God is like little children…babies…okay <sigh> that’s not what it’s talking about.  Anywho…

As I said, “Frustration proves that you’re alive.” It also proves…

  • You’re not satisfied with run-of-the-mill mediocre
  • You have passion
  • You’re gifted and talented

Now it’s also true that tearing up a bag of hot dog buns isn’t a good or even acceptable way to deal with frustration.  But, the point is…frustration doesn’t only prove that you’re an out-of-control nincompoop…at least for as long as it takes you to vent in some immature fashion.

So the questions:

  • What frustrates you?
  • What even makes you “angry” or dissatisfied?
  • What would you do to make the circumstance or situation better?

It’s absolutely a true statement that a person can very often discover their own areas of talent and gifting by discovering what is dissatisfying them.  BUT IT’S VERY IMPORTANT that you don’t blame shift.

The only effective way for you to beat this kind of frustration is ask yourself…

What can I do to make this better?

Back to the hot dog bun story.  That is the question I asked myself, “What can I do to make this better?” …(although a better time would have been before playing “the hulk” with the buns).

Btw…how foolish do you think I felt when I had to tell my wife what happened to supper? 🙁

At the moment that I tore up the buns, I was blame shifting…and the buns were the object of disapproval.  So, an important issue here…

When dealing with frustration never blame shift but instead take personal responsibility.  Not the kind of responsibility that produces guilt (an equally bad and non helpful solution).  But, instead…the kind of responsibility that says, “What can I do (in the short term and the long term) to make this better.”  Then, dude…take action on it. You’ll discover an amazing frustration buster by putting this article into practice.

TALK TO US.  WHAT FRUSTRATES YOU?  WHAT QUESTIONS OR COMMENTS DO YOU HAVE?

(Continued…)

Gary




Beating Frustration (1)

Frustration is one of life’s simple pleasures, eh?  You’re probably wondering how I got this drawing of you when you thought nobody was watching, right?  Well, keep reading and I’ll share that little secret…

Okay, it’s not you…but it could have been more than once…twice?  A gazillion times?

But seriously…frustration is one of the most common emotional conditions known to mankind.  Everything seems to be going reasonably well and…….whoooooosh…….somebody happens to your well laid plans.

It’s not always somebody. Sometimes someTHING happens.  But more often than not there’s a someBODY somewhere in the mix.

So, now that I’ve stated the obvious, what’s the solution.  How do you beat frustration at its own ugly game?

There are a few practical things that I’m going to share with you that have worked for me.  They still work….when I remember to practice them.  Practice is a good word, because beating frustration takes a life-time of practice.

The one thing I’m going to mention today is a biggy.  And, it’s simply…

SLOW DOWN

We are addicted to speed.  As far as I’m concerned, it’s a worse and maybe more devastating addiction than most drugs.  For one reason, we know drugs are bad.  We honor speed.

It’s going to take practice…but start now.  Take a deep breath.  I mean it!  Take a deep breath.  Let it out slowly.

Excessive speed is killing you emotionally.  Frustration is simply going to appear in this real deal world.  But, living constantly in the fast lane is only adding fuel to the fire.

Think about this.  Mull it over and over in your mind.  Ask God to reveal something to you as you ponder these words from Psalm 23, “He makes me to lie down in green pastures.  He leads me beside still waters.”

Let’s be honest here.  Speed has never solved any of your problems.  In fact it may have cost you a few (or many) bucks.

You’re going to need some peace to beat frustration.  And, you can’t catch peace by running after it.  Peace doesn’t run.

Finally, frustration won’t be beaten without God’s help.  And, God isn’t going to run to catch up with you.   So, slow down and come along side God at His speed.

(Continued…)

What have you done that has helped you in the battle with frustration?
Join in the conversation by commenting.

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Gary


Disobey God? Yep, You Have the Right!

Yes you do!  You have the right to disobey God because your circumstances (apples) are different?  He understands that you need to worry about your situation (apples).  It shows how responsible you are.

The Apostle Paul said to the Philippian Church, “Do not be anxious for anything.”  The Holy Spirit inspired that statement.  Apparently He didn’t realize you would have circumstances when it would make it okay to be anxious.

Solomon said, “Trust the Lord with ALL your heart.  Do NOT lean on your own understanding…”

But, the thing is….Solomon didn’t cover your base.  He didn’t realize that sometimes people need to lean on their own understanding.  It’s only smart, right?  Besides, it’s the responsible thing for you to do.  Your cunning will solve most any situation as long as you are conscientious enough to worry about it!

On the other hand, maybe not so much.  Maybe your stress factor will only complicate the issue.  Perhaps the tension will help you sleep better.  It’s possible that you enjoy the stomach pain.  After all, it’s helping make your relationships better, isn’t it?

-Or – You could train yourself to…

…pillow your head on the promises of God.

Ultimately, the choice is yours.  If you can convince God that your situation is the exception to His thoughts…then…
go for it. Do it your way!  Stress out! Worry!

However, maybe you’d like to learn what real responsibility is?  Huh, whuh-duh-yuh-think?  PERHAPS…just perhaps you’d rather learn being responsible is actually being RESPONSE-ABLE….Able to respond.

For me…Trusting God ALWAYS works out best!  He goes before me (instead of me going before Him) to make the crooked places straight and the rough places smooth.

My part:   Enjoy My Life!  That always works when God is Large and In Charge!

Gary

Brennon Manning – Deep and Delicate Respect

Deep and delicate respect for one another.  That’s how Brennon Manning in his book, “The Furious Longing of God,” describes the only true way that people will recognize true Christianity.  I got to thinking…

The source of anything good originates in God. Therefore…

Deep and delicate respect had to originate in the heart of God, first. It’s not a human invention. So…

We all know the importance of “respect.”  But, how can we truly give it?  By embracing the source of deep and delicate respect.  In other words, we embrace the fact that God’s love for us can also be described as “deep and delicate respect for us.”  So…

Know this: God’s love embraces you with deep and delicate respect.  Not the person you wish you were, or the person you should be.  God’s love embraces YOU (as you are) with deep and delicate respect. Right here.  Right now.  S0…

If you want to move out of the “poor self image zone” into the beautiful field of “What Can Be,”  (cuz He won’t leave you in the squalor of self hate) accept the deep and delicate respect of God’s love for you...as you are right now.  That acceptance will lift you like magic to a higher place….recognizing you are seated with Jesus in heavenly places.

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Gary

Don’t let the (K)nots hang you…

K(nots) can have very positive purposes.  So can “nots.”  But, there are K(nots) that will hang you…

  • I’m NOT ever going to have any friends
  • I’m NOT gifted like other people
  • I’m NOT able to “quit smoking”…”(you fill in the blank)”
  • I’m NOT good enough
  • Etc, etc, (ad infinitum etcs)

Those are the kind of K(nots) that will hang you.  To focus on all the negative and seemingly unproductive things in your life will never bring you the hope that encourages trust and faith.  Some people believe that they are only being “realistic” when they boldly declare the K(nots) about their lives.  Unfortunately, the longer they make their beds with this kind of “realism,” the blinder they become to God’s plan, power, and purposes for them.

“I can do all things…through Christ…who has given me His strength.”   Before it’s too late…be bold enough to believe God would never lie to you…ever!

Start agreeing with His Words. It may not be easy at first.  It depends on how tight the k(not) has become around the throat of your mind.  But, before you are hung without remedy, begin untying the k(not) with your mouth, today!

The k(nots) don’t have to hang you.  Start, today, talking the truth of God’s word.  Insist on it.  Let the words of your mouth and the meditation of your heart be acceptable –  without all the (k)NOTS!

What are some of the “k(nots)” that can hang people.  Join the conversation!  Comment!

Who Does God Love (Like)?

Who does God love?  The make believe you?  The you that you wish you were?  Or the you that has so many inconsistencies that you are a disappointment to yourself, let alone God?   This may surprise you…

At least it will surprise your “religious” self…

God doesn’t love the person you wish you were.  He loves the “you” that you feel has no real redemptive value.

(just as an aside…He likes you, too.  How do I know that?  Because “like” is one of the qualities of love.  And He is LOVE in total.)

In fact, this may surprise you even further…

You may have heard this phrase, “God loves the Jesus in you” -or- “When God looks at you, He sees Jesus.”    Sorry, close…but no cigar.   When God looks at you….He sees YOU in all your inconsistencies and shortcomings.  He sees YOU.   And, He loves YOU.  He has since BEFORE Jesus touched your life.

<break….If you haven’t asked Jesus to wrap His arms around you and make you His…you can, right now as you read this.  Say, “Jesus, I need and want you.”>

Embrace the reality of your weakness. Don’t run from it.  Being honest and letting God love the “less-than-perfect” you is your only hope of being infected by the power of His raging love for you.  Once you have “the disease” and become “love sick” you’ll begin the joyous journey of discovering true freedom and authentic change.

How does this make you feel?  Please comment.  I want to know what you’re thinking!

Gary