Let me introduce you (and me) to the sixty second miracle. That minute has miraculous power…for you…and others around you. In fact the miracle multiplies exponentially if you string a few of them together.
Let me help describe it by grabbing a quote from an article by Mark Morford, entitled, “Shut Up for One Tiny Second.”
“Not long ago, or maybe it was just last week, my friend had an epiphany.
She said, in a surprised and exasperated voice, in that tone you normally reserve for discovering you have obscenely bad breath or a third nipple or maybe a clump of shiny black hairs sticking out of your nose for the past week and no one bothered to tell you, she said, “Oh my God! Do you know what I just realized? I talk way too much.”
This was no small discovery. This was no inconsequential awakening. My friend — who was, by the way, wholly correct — was not one normally prone to sudden bouts of self-awareness, much less a startling, quasi-spiritual confession that something was seriously amiss in how she was interacting with the world, and she needs to do something about it.
She was stunned. I was stunned. She said she just recently grasped, to her horror, that she never really heard a single thing anyone else said, never really connected to a conversation, never really listened for anything except a pause in the conversation so she could jump back in and fill it with an opinion she’d been manically forming while others were talking.”
We all hold beliefs that we feel are absolute, true, and vital to life and eternity. I’m going to take for granted, for the moment, that what you hold to is, in fact, the real deal.
If your truth is better truth than someone else’s truth, isn’t it extra important to have the other person hear and consider what you are saying instead of enduring your voluminous “wisdom.”
It’s my experience that I get waaaay further down the road of by voice being heard…if my voice is not heard so much. If.I.Shut.Up.For.One.Tiny.Second. During that miraculous minute, I’ve discovered that I began to hear hearts that are holding desires not unlike mine.
Is it easy? Not for me it’s not. Especially if I believe that my truth is the truth and forever is at stake? Nuh-uh, it’s not easy. Waaaay not easy. But, I’m learning and I’m discovering the reality in something my dad used to say.
“A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still.”
There’s another payoff. I learn stuff. Important stuff. I.don’t.know.it.all. Far from it. My life becomes richer (on so many levels) just for the listening.
But now it’s your turn to talk. Why do we have such a difficult time in this area? Maybe you don’t, but I do. So, help us all by sharing: